Frequently I have clients say to me that they have no friends. Sometimes this is true but generally speaking, is that they only have 1 or 2 good friends. Regardless of the reality, we will do an exercise in which they were to categorize those people they know.
It starts with creating a bulls-eye. I ask them who their 2 am friends are. You know, those people who you can call at 2 am for help and they do not hesitate to answer.
The next ring out are those friends you talk to regularly and enjoy their company. You are close but not close enough to call at 2 am.
The third ring out is for those who you see often, like school or work friends. You talk while you are there and may do something with them occasionally, but if you left that school or work you would most likely not stay in touch.
The last ring is for those people who you know from the community. You see them all the time. You chit chat with them. You may or may not recall their name. But it is pleasant when you do see them.
If you are really blessed you have that one or two people who are in the bulls-eye. I am definitely blessed. I have two that fall in there. While I do not have many more friends, the ones I have fill my life with joy. It is not quantity that counts but quality.
Until next time…
Change. Discover. Transform.
Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified