Love Language

Marriage and family life expert Dr. Gary Chapman answers questions from the Oprah’s Life Class audience—in the studio and on Twitter. Watch as he reveals his personal love language. Plus, what’s the best way to communicate with someone who has multiple love languages?

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified

Reckless Abandment

Weight loss Wednesday tip submitted by Beck Diet Institute:

If you think, “Weekends should be about fun, not about dieting,” remind yourself, “Eating healthfully and having fun are not mutually exclusive. Just because I may not eat EVERYTHING I want doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy what I do eat. And besides, staying in control of my eating ALWAYS feels so much better than being out of control.”

My thoughts:

Falling off the wagon or off program. I came back from a Mother’s Day weekend several years ago and spoke with several fellow moms and the theme seemed to be that Sunday was a day to throw out all sensible eating. Some of these moms went all out and ate everything under the sun and then felt extremely guilty for having done that. Monday came and they were still hanging their heads and struggling to get back on track. Others ate things they knew they shouldn’t. Things that were not healthy for them but come Monday they were right back on track.

We all have tough days when we do not make the exact choices we would like. But that moment should not define us for a lifetime. The beautiful thing about each day is that there is beginning and an end. We can start each day fresh and if it is a tough day, we can finish the day knowing we have that fresh start in the morning.

Have you had a rough day? Did you eat things you ‘shouldn’t’? Did you eat more than you should have? Did you skip exercise today? Okay…so you made a mistake. Decide right now to change. Decide right now to get back on track. There is no time like the present. You can do it!

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified

Self-Care

The holidays have come and gone. During the holidays we were all looking for gifts for others and running around. During that time of year and all times of year, remember to take care of yourself. Self-care is a very important part of our mental health. Self care allows us to recognize ourselves which can be very difficult at times for us to do. Often times for mothers and caregivers we are looking after other people’s needs and wants. Continue to try and fit time in your daily left for yourself. Do not neglect your self and your own mental health. I found this self care chart which breaks it down into 3 parts, our mental, physical, and emotional self.

As you read through this chart challenge yourself to think about ways to take care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally. You are unique; there is only one of you in this world. I encourage you to find your strengths, potential and worth and make time to care for yourself today and everyday!

Create, educate, inspire.
Katrina Kurtz, MA., LCPC, ATR

What’s so funny?

Diseases of the body garner sympathy, says comedian Ruby Wax — except those of the brain. Why is that? With dazzling energy and humor, Wax, diagnosed a decade ago with clinical depression, urges us to put an end to the stigma of mental illness.

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified

What is your love language?

The folks over at Wisdom for Life have taken the time to develop a video summarizing Dr. Gary Chapman’s Love Languages.

Have you ever been in one of those relationships where you think you’re doing everything you can to please your partner, but they’re still feeling frustrated and unloved? I mean you’re giving them compliments, you work hard all day to bring home the bacon and pay the bills, you give them gifts, and you even do some chores around the house, but they’re still feeling unloved…I mean, what more do they want! It’s incredibly annoying and disappointing, right? Well, the reason why they aren’t feeling loved, in short, is that you’re not speaking their love language!

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified

Magic Sprinkles

Weight loss Wednesday tip submitted by Beck Diet Institute:

There is no magic bullet or magical combination of food that will enable dieters to achieve lasting weight loss. But because dieting is not magic, it means that anyone can succeed once they acquire and PRACTICE, PRACTICE essential skills.

My thoughts:

Have you been sick and therefore have been either in bed or on the couch? When I am on the couch feeling sick, I am watching lots and lots of crappy TV. I can not believe how many ‘diet’ commercials are on the TV. There are several things that I have noticed.

First, they all try to tell the consumers that ‘dieting’ is simple. Just do whatever they are suggesting…shake sprinkles, drink shakes, take pills, eat their foods, etc.

The second problem I see is that they all try to sell their product with the line of you really don’t need to change anything in your life.

Come on! Wake up, folks! Diets are temporary solutions not lifelong solutions.
What you really need to do is to develop a healthy obsession. A healthy obsession is a sustained preoccupation with the planning and execution of target behaviors to reach a healthy goal. It is all about making healthy choices that you can do consistently with fidelity. It is also about not letting yourself make excuses for not following through with these healthy changes.

Don’t fall for the easy solutions. Permanent weight controlling takes effort and commitment.

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified

In their own words…a look into mental health

Mind, the mental health charity created a video showing 13 people, aged 18-25 talk about what it’s like to live with a mental health problem, and what helps them cope.

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified

Fighting Fair

The folks at Marriage365 helps to shed some light on fighting fair. How couples handle conflict reveals if they can go the distance in their relationship. We all have conflict, but keeping it from turning into combat is key. Learn 4 tips on how to handle conflict in a healthy manner.

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified

No Excuses

Weight loss Wednesday tip submitted by Beck Diet Institute:

The weekend is a great time to fit in exercise. Remember – 5 minutes is ALWAYS better than 0 minutes. Likely the hardest part is just getting started and once you’re done you definitely won’t regret it.

My thoughts:

It is never too late to get started…again. Gyms will tell you that January and even part of February are the busiest times of year. Everyone is back on the weight loss band wagon. But then the gyms begin to thin out. The gyms know this. In fact, they are counting on it. It’s how they make their money. Don’t want to go to the gym? Then head outside or workout in your house. No Excuses.

Until next time….

Change. Discover. Transform.

Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified