I started family yoga with the 3 younger grandchildren. Hope (13 years old) is our leader. She really shines when we are practicing yoga. She is beautiful and graceful. Best of all she is able to encourage her brother, Tysean (2 years old). While this by itself is great, it is even better when you understand that it was not always that way.
Two years ago, Hope was so jealous. She did not like the fact that her dad had a new wife. She did not like the fact that they were going to have a new baby. After all she was the baby. At that time, she did everything to upset everything and everyone. Sadly, she was a master at it too. Talk to any parent that has more than one child and they will tell you that when a new sibling is added that the whole house goes up for grab while everyone adjusts…often painfully. They will also tell you it does work itself out.
This year we added another one. Now Hope has learned that life will not end but now it’s Tysean’s turn to learn that. He goes between hitting or biting his brother to kissing him passionately. He has to be watched for sure. While I know it will all work out like it did with Hope, I also know that things like family yoga help it along the way.
But when we do family yoga we are all together being led by big sister and each participating together. It is our 30 minutes of unity. It is a time when we all learn new things and grow together. As grandma I look forward to seeing how these there interact with me and Rita (our yoga instructor). We all arrive eager and leave fulfilled.
Are you feeling adjustment pains in your family? What can you do to unify your family? What activity can you do together where everyone matters?
Until next time….
Change. Discover. Transform.
Carla Carter, Ed.D., LCPC, CMPC, EMDR Certified