Who wants to be around someone who is negative all the time? Negativity breeds more negativity- It’s contagious. The more negative you are, the more negative you become and if not careful, before you know it, you could be in a state of depression. To prevent this from occurring, make the choice to stay positive…Yes, your perspective is a choice. Believe it or not, you make that choice all the time. It may be an unconscious choice, but it’s a choice none the less.
Being optimistic and having a positive outlook is an essential ingredient in creating a sense of hopefulness in your household, especially in your kids. Negativity and pessimism causes a person to look at life from a deficit standpoint. Always looking for “the other shoe to drop” or thinking that things are never going to go right for me can be extremely damaging to you as a parent, but more importantly, can have profound, long-lasting, negative effects on your kids. If you have a negative disposition, you are more likely to display negative parenting behaviors such as irritability, aggression, withdrawal and be unhappy and frustrated with your life. Research shows that children whose parents displayed these negative parenting behaviors were more likely to have depressive symptoms, a negative self-concept, display negative behaviors and have a more negative outlook on life.
Positivity has its rewards, not just for you, but for your kids as well. Why not expect the best? More often than not, if you look for good, you will find it. Good things will come to you. But even if something negative does happen, you can choose to look at it from a more positive perspective. By turning a negative into a positive, you begin to equip yourself and your kids with an uncanny skill… the ability to stay positive in the face of adversity.
You can turn a negative situation or issue into a positive by asking yourself:
1. What can I learn from it?
2. How did I cause or contribute to this happening to me?
3. How can I prevent this from happening again?
4. If this does happen to me again (may be unavoidable or may make the mistake again), how can I make sure that I respond well and make the most out of it.
The point is to make sure that you learn the lesson from any negative situation and by doing so, you teach your kids to do the same thing.
If you look at things from a positive perspective, your life will more than likely turn out more positively. You will show your kids what to do and how to react when something negative happens to you and you will be the example that your kids need to choose optimism over pessimism.
So, choose positivity… Your kids will reap the benefits!
By: Amber C. Gardner, MA, LPC, NCC